9.17.2008

Ike.

I write this while sitting in the dark using the little battery life my laptop has left. I will post it once I can steal an internet connection from some lucky soul.

We are still without power and a return to normalcy seems just outside of arm's reach. Right now being without power is as bad as it is for us, so we are lucky. We are just 1 of almost 2 million, so we are not alone. Unlucky are those who lost everything. My parents live on the Texas coast, one block from the beach of Galveston Bay. Or should I say they 'lived' there. My dad decided to stay and weather the storm. Once it was all said and done, I would consider him to be of that later group; lucky to be alive, but in most other ways - unlucky.

He called at some point over the weekend after the storm had passed, although right now my days are running together so I'm not sure when the call came. During the course of that phone call the only thing I remember was him saying "it is gone, everything is gone". Ike rolled in and swallowed my parent's house and car and in that moment stole 47 years of a man's life. Yes houses and cars and their contents are replaceable, they are mere material belongings, but you can't help but think about everything you have and how you would feel if it were gone in an instant. Every photo, every gift, anything you have clung to for sentimental value...gone.

There are times in your life when you see something and it is forever burned into your mind. You look back at that image and see life as it was exactly in that moment. Most of the time those are good memories, or at least you hope those are the ones that get engraved, but every once in a while you see an image that changes you and no matter how you try you can't force it out of your brain. I will never be able to erase the snapshot my brain took when my dad walked into my house. Yes he is the same man, but he is changed. His eyes were blank and wearing nothing but shorts, a ragged t-shirt and work boots, he carried what was left of his belongings in a plastic grocery bag. His entire 47 years in a half filled, white, plastic Walgreens bag.

My mother lost just as much as my father but because she was at our house she was spared the torment of watching it all fade away. She is devastated that she will never again see a photo of her mother and the only things she has left of her are memories. I think the oddest moment for some would have been the look of absolute horror when she realized her iron skillet was gone; to most just a pot, but for my mom it was so much more. Yes it was a pot, but she used it to cook meals for her family when many times a meal was all we had to cling to.

I can't begin to imagine how they feel and I really don't know where to steer them from here. Life will go on and most of this will become a far off distant memory, I'm just not sure when that time will come and how it will get here. I am so thankful for my friends that have fed us for the last 5 days and offered us a washing machine and a hot shower. They have literally given my dad the clothes of of their backs. They are incredible and it helps me understand just how truly lucky we are.

~~~

On a lighter note, oh to be two and unable to comprehend the magnitude of the life surrounding you. Here are a few photos from Oliver 'weathering the storm' with his chocolate chip muffins and sloppy joe picnic.




29 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wendi.... You've got me in tears! I'm so sorry to hear that Ike took everything from your family. It's so horrible to have to go through this and be pregnant at the same time. Hopefully your parents can find some sort of peace in this and look on the bright side (if there is one). I'm glad that everyone made it out safe and sound. If you need ANYTHING... let me know. We could try to get some clothes together to send up for your dad and mom if you give me sizes and such. You know how to reach me...561-324-9343. Let me know if there's anything I can do. I've been sending you messages on myspace and email but I doubt you can check it. We are praying for you and your family. I hope the power comes on ASAP!!!!!!!! HUGS to you guys Wendi!!! Please take care of yourself!
Heather (GATORBABY)

Anonymous said...

Thinking of you Wendi. I don't know if there is ANYTHING that can be done to help but if there is please let me know. Denise

Anonymous said...

Hugs. If I can help out in any way, please let me know. Zanne.

Sunshine said...

Wendi, your eloquence with words combined with the raw emotion of this time in your life is so moving to me. I have read and re-read this post many times, each time a new phrase or word jumping out at me. I am so very sorry that your family has suffered such deep losses. As you said, it may be material, but some things, such as photos, carry the immaterial along with them and that can never be replaced. I am also so thankful that none of you were physically hurt and all still have each other, at the least. What a treasure to have that little cutie, Oliver, there to keep things light and help show us how much life still goes on, even when we think it won't. Your parents are both in my prayers, as are you and Angel, Oliver, and little one. Please don't hesitate to let me know if there is anything at all I can do. I'd be more than happy to get some things together to send to you and/or your parents if there's anything you need. Take care of yourself, homie. - Jess

Anonymous said...

I cant fathom how you and your family are feeling. With all the pettiness going around us, this really puts life into perspective. I hope that you are all able to pick up the pieces and move forward from here. Love ya Homie!

Anonymous said...

wow, i can't begin to even imagine how you all feel. I am glad you are all safe and gald Oliver was oblivious to the terrible things surrounding you all. As the others said, if you need anything i would send it, but am thinking of you all and sending good thoughts your way.

cheryl

HiPPiE CHiC said...

Wendi,

You continue to be in my thoughts. I'm so glad that you are okay, especially the baby. I'm so sorry to hear that your parents have lost everything. I can't imagine the devastation. I hope they can rebuild their lives quickly. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

MicheleB

Anonymous said...

Wendi~

I just wanted to let you know that I have been thinking and praying for your family. I'm so sorry for your families loss and would love to help in any way that I can. You can reach me at 907-980-6228. God Bless you and will keep checking for updates. Oliver is such a cutie and I can't wait to see your new little one.

Angel

Maine Mom said...

Wendi - Thinking of you and your family. Glad you could be there for your parents when so much was lost. The frying pan made me cry - I get that one - odd but I know how meaningful that was. Best wishes from Maine. M

Mama Meech said...

I can't even imagine what you are all going through right now...
Thank you for sharing that beautifully written post and I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers!

Oh to be 2...and adorable!

Darlene said...

Wendi~
Not a day has gone by we haven't said a prayer for your family. I am so sorry your parents lost such precious memorabilia...I can't fathom how hard it must be. We hope you continue to stay safe and healthy and we can't wait to hear about baby girl! Ava sends many hugs and smooches to Oliver...

Many hugs
XOXO

Anonymous said...

Wow- I think that is all I can say. If you need anything please let me know. I can get a bunch of stuff together and send it your way. LACIE

Anonymous said...

Hi Wendi,

I'm sorry you and your family are going thru this trying times. I can't imagine what your parents are going thru having lost all things dear to them in a blink of an eye. Words cannot begin to describe it. I'm keeping you all in my prayers. Pls do stay strong. The Lord is your strength

Anonymous said...


You and your family are in my prayers .. I couldn't even imagine having to go through what you guys are enduring right now ..
Thinking of you ...
Jessica

Anonymous said...

So sorry you & your family have to go through this! You will be in my thoughts & prayers! Please let me know if there's anything I can do!

Anonymous said...

wow.... that's a lot! I can't imagine, don't even want to try to imagine, because that already has me in tears. Just horrible. I'm so sorry for your parents. I wish I could do something.

Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear what you and your family are going through. How terrible to have to go through this. I will be thinking about you guys, and please let me know if there is anything I can do. Oliver is adorable by the way. I hope you are feeling good otherwise.

Best,

Gwenn (nyskier)

Anonymous said...

Wendi I am soo sorry to hear this you and your family.
nicole (nicole alexsmommy)

Anonymous said...

Wendi, I'm so sorry to hear about your family's loss. I can't imagine what they're feeling right now. As I told my friend (who lives in Kemah, and whose house was partially destroyed) - your loved ones are OK. With love and hope, you can rebuild anything. Best of luck to you all.

Unknown said...

I am sorry your parents had to experience such a tragic loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Big HUgs, Oliver is adorable hope you are doing well.

Diana (dye3737)

Hawkeye said...

Wendi - Man! We hurt for you. We've seen too much water, wind and devastation from both here in Cedar Rapids and all over Iowa, too. Your storm surge, like the flood surge which inundated our business district on Friday, June 13th, left in its wake an odious sludge of mud combined with gasoline, oil and diesel fuel from flooded underground storage tanks and vehicles, and raw animal and human sewage from feed lots and septic systems. It was a gift that keeps on giving. Parts of downtown are still without power. Heat was provided for most businesses there with steam from the nearby hydroelectric plant, but due to collapsed tunnels and mains, service may not be restored in time for the coming winter. The real tragedy is the daily visual reminder to anyone driving around the 1300 square blocks of affected area, of ruined homes and businesses, mountains of personal possessions representing the fruits of labor of countless lives forever changed or destroyed, closed businesses and the stench. For many residents like many of you there, all that is left are memories. But we are recovering, slowly but surely, and you will, too. God's Grace be with you.

Anonymous said...

You're strong, you'll get over it.

Arfeiniel said...

wow anonymous, thanks for being so compassionate!

Anonymous said...

Wendi- I can't imagine having to look at my parents face, especially my father, after he had lost his entire lifetime of things he had worked for. No person deserves that. I'm truly sorry for the loss that they and you must endure.
We were without power for over 24 hours and I thought I would go crazy...but now I see that so many are truly suffering and I feel guilty. It is good to know that you are all ok and that you have each other-especially Oliver. I'm sure he is the bright spot in the midst of the darkness. Please know that I am thinking of you and your family and praying that things will fall into place as best they can.
Lori- (Londons Mom)

HeatherScent said...

Wow, Anonymous at 7:02 AM, what pertinent words of wisdom. Would you care to look Wendi's father in the face and repeat those words? I'm sure it's just the kick in the ass he needs to "get over" his house being destroyed.

Anonymous said...

I could have sworn I commented on this yesterday. I must be losing my mind. I hope that you now have your power and water restored.

Your situation is horrible enough to face without children, I can't imagine facing it with a 2 year old and one on the way.

I am truly sorry for your parents. While they only lost material things, some things cannot be replaced.

I cried when I read that your Father's remaining possessions didn't even fill a plastic Walgreen's bag and again when I read that your Mom lost her pot. To many it was only a pot but to your Mom it was obviously so much more.

Anonymous - I hope you never have to experience what Wendi and her family have because NOONE should have to. You should be man or woman enough to post your name. Yes, Wendi is strong but I doubt she will EVER get over this. Do you think her parents will? Do you believe that somehow they brought this upon themselves? Judge not, lest ye be judged. God knows who you are. He will ensure you get your just rewards.

Anonymous said...

Wendi,

If there is anything you need or anything I can do, PLEASE DO NOT hesitate to ask!! I have family in Texas so maybe they can help you and your family. My love and strength goes out to you and your family!!

**Hey Anonymous(Coward)**
You can only wish you had the support of family and friends like Wendi has. You can only be pittied, you pig!

Anonymous said...

oops, forgot sign my name...

Maggie

P.S. call me if you need anything

Livs Mommy said...

Blghhh. I'm glad that you and your family are safe. And admittedly, glad your home is safe, too. Even if it's just things, they are things that need to be rebuilt, things that hold emotional value, time and memories. I'm so sad for your father, who witnessed and lost so much, and for your mother too. I'm warmed to hear of the people who have given... I hope the time to rebuild is soon. My thoughts are with you.

 

My blog has moved!

You should be automatically redirected in a few seconds. If not, visit
http://wendischoffstall.com/blog/
and update your bookmarks.